Xiaoli’s Published Book


Proven Steps To Attract True Love and Build a Fulfilling Relationship


  • A modern formula of Happily ever after
  • A must-read for smart, ambitious, independent women who spent their life achieving success in their career, yet experience stress and an overwhelmingly empty feeling of missing out a loving relationship
  • This book will bring hope and light to those women who are still in the dark, can’t see the light or who are seeking guidance on the journey to find the love of their lives
  • Discover the real blocks and resistance that prevent women in having the relationship they want
  • “The Happiness Code” 7 proven steps to attract true love and build a lasting fulfilling relationship


  • For every woman who struggles in relationships and intimacy. They will find solutions and guidance in these pages and a way to reclaim their passion and joy in their life
  • Discover what’s the real roadblocks preventing them to have the relationship they desire
  • This book outlines 7 proven steps to find a lasting fulfilling relationship while maintaining your professional career. The practical exercises help the reader work through the learning points and experience the necessary steps to take action and achieve success and happiness.
  • Each chapter contains the fundamental learning and essential skills, personal examples, and practical exercises and tools to help the reader better understand themselves and the dynamics of human interactions necessary for a healthy relationship.


  • The primary audience for this book is women, ages 30-70, who are ambitious and successful in their jobs but have challenges about finding love and fulfilling relationship.
  • Despite your success in every area of your life, you feel you are missing out on sharing your happiness and joy with someone special
  • You want to find a true and lasting love, but think you are too old, too late, and not beautiful enough, not slim enough or some other limiting beliefs.
  • You are smart, successful, independent, but find yourself getting involved with the same type of emotionally unavailable men again and again without commitment.
  • You’ve had bad relationships in the past, and have lost the confidence to trust that you’ll make right choice next time.


This book is a must read. Xiaoli is vastly experienced in coaching women. It's evident from the detailed real-life examples in the book that describes and dissects each woman's challenge in finding the love they deserve. The book illustrates the importance of looking at past relationships. willingness to look at one's childhood. and how culture. society. and family shape one's beliefs. in order to envision the future loving relationships. It teaches women to identify the issues from previous relationships. peeling away oneself like an onion to gain self-understanding. and eventually. self acceptance. It further teaches women to recognize what they want in their future relationships. to identify the qualities they most value in their future companions. Additionally. it addresses the modern world of dating. with the current trend of various online dating too/s. and how women can leverage and utilize each popular dating tool to their advantage. This book empowers all women to find who they are and what type of relationship they envision to have in the future. It teaches women how to better understand men. and how to communicate with men more effectively by leveraging the feminine energy. It helps women understand the limiting beliefs they have towards themselves or their partners. while empowering women to stay positive and move forward to find and build the strong foundation towards loving relationships. I have the honor to be coached by Xiaoli since last October. I was lost in my life with no sense of purpose. I was unhappy in my marriage. and was starting my new career as a realtor. It was one of the most difficult periods in my life. Xiaoli helped me understand that the more vulnerable and true I can be to myself and my past relationships. the more I can heal from past wounds and move on positively to the life that I envision. I've accepted the mistakes I've made in my life and I'm able to move forward to a much more purposeful future with a clear vision of the life that I desire. I am much happier. more confident and at peace than I was one year ago. Without Xiaoli. I would not have survived the most difficult stage of my life while raising two children on my own. Her compassion. expertise. and passion are what make her an excellent coach. This book is wonderful and I think all women should read it. The deeper we understand ourselves. the more we gain in realizing what kind of loving relationship we want to have. The more we understand how men think and how they operate. the more we can effectively and effortlessly communicate with them. Her individual coaching sessions are very effective and the weekly sessions truly helped me smoothly progress through my journey. I would recommend this book to all women. I would also recommend her one-on-one coaching to women who have not been successful in finding themselves and the love they deserve.


Kolline Lee

I had the pleasure of meeting Xiaoli in person. She is a graceful woman who greeted me with interest and friendliness. As a pain therapist. I help people release trapped emotions and self reversals which prevent them from being successful. I was curious to hear Xiaolls insights on dating. and I discovered that Xiaoli understands deeply how emotional pain affects women in romantic relationships. I followed up our meeting by reading Xiaoli's book to understand her work. Xiaoli begins with vignettes of women and their relationship struggles. Readers may resonate with one or more of these profiles. which unfold across generations and cultures. Xiaoli shares how we can release past heartbreak by applying self-examination to recognize these patterns and triggers. In the next section. Xiaoli writes about feminine energy and how our goddess essence is available through Being. a state of opening ourselves to receiving. At the root of healing is self-love and communicating how we feel vulnerable with our partners. 



This book totally changed my perspective about true love. So many people want to find happiness from relationships and our partners. but in truth we are the only person who can make ourselves happy first before attracting a happy partner into our life. What a insight! I just bought a copy for my friend. Its worth to share



Must Read - Perfect relationship book if you are looking for love. I really enjoyed reading it and highly recommend this book. The stories are powerful especially author combined her own love story with her client's stories. It truly gave me hope and confidence that happy ever after is possible. I especially like the 7 actions laid out in the last chapter. If you are struggling in dating and relationship. this book is your roadmap to have a happy ending.



I read many books on relationships. This book was a great read. Excellent advice. Chapter 2 impacted me the most. I never thought our beliefs will shape our realities in such a big way. From the exercise in chapter 2. I realized why I attracted certain partners into my relationships in the past. I see my repeating pattern. It absolutely changed my view about loving others and myself. I believe all women would benefit from this book even they are already in relationships. I even ordered a copy for my mom.



As I was reading the book. I felt as though I was reading my own journey to finding love that lasts. We attract and accept the love we think we deserve. and this book is a simple yet nourishing ways to helping us to love ourselves first.